Wedding reading - very flattered

I was very flattered today to be asked by my brother to do a reading at his July wedding (not church). Think he found it difficult to choose between the 3 of us (his sisters) so I have been asked as I have been married for 20 years in June.

I am very happy to oblige and they have asked for me to choose so they have a surprise on the day.

So now I’m opening it out to you well read folks on here. What’s the best reading you’ve ever heard (or read) at a wedding? Any other top tips? Thanks in advance…I hope. xx

never done this myself, but I guess the best thing is to be honest and wish the happy couple a very happy future.

If you know they would like a family, mention something about your experiences if you have children.

try to make it personal to them.

look forward to reading what you come up with.

good luck




Obviously, there’s the classic description of love iin the bible from 1 Corinthians chapter 13 (Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.)

But if you’re not allowed any religious readings, then I’ve heard this one a couple times at weddings, from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, by Louis de Bernieres:

'Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your root was so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.’


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The Future belongs to hearts even more than it does to minds.

Les Misearables by Victor Hugo

My favourite show

“The future belongs to hearts even more than it does to minds. Love, that is the only thing that can occupy and fill eternity. In the infinite, the inexhaustible is requisite.

Love participates of the soul itself. It is of the same nature. Like it, it is the divine spark; like it, it is incorruptible, indivisible, imperishable. It is a point of fire that exists within us, which is immortal and infinite, which nothing can confine, and which nothing can extinguish. We feel it burning even to the very marrow of our bones, and we see it beaming in the very depths of heaven…

What a grand thing it is to be loved! What a far grander thing it is to love! The heart becomes heroic, by dint of passion. It is no longer composed of anything but what is pure; it no longer rests on anything that is not elevated and great. An unworthy thought can no more germinate in it, than a nettle on a glacier. The serene and lofty soul, inaccessible to vulgar passions and emotions, dominating the clouds and the shades of this world, its follies, its lies, its hatreds, its vanities, its miseries, inhabits the blue of heaven, and no longer feels anything but profound and subterranean shocks of destiny, as the crests of mountains feel the shocks of earthquake.

If there did not exist some one who loved, the sun would become extinct.”

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Thanks for the ideas, some great suggestions here. I think I may end up spoilt for choice!

Soooooo excited!

How about this but Khalil Gibran? Whilst I didn’t have it in my own wedding, it’s the way we’ve lived our (almost) 38 yrs of marriage because each one ( we believe) needs ‘space’ within it…

"You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow."

This is a lovely poem. I totally agree about the importance of space in relationships

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I really like this. My brother has to work away a lot so they are often apart. They’re both pretty independent spirits.