Hi
So I need some thoughts, I know its all down to me but…
I have MS PP diagnosed some 10 years ago and currently getting bad - mobility, balance, fatigue.
Last Saturday afternoon I watched the rugby, I am an avid Welsh international fan, and it was the end of the 6 nations so …
My wife started doing some ironing at the end of the Scottish game, I said (twice) I could do the ironing whilst I watch the Welsh game, didn’t bother me.,.she said no it was fine…I settled into the elongated Welsh game.
That evening, she said to me that she had spent 2 and a half hours ironing while I sat on my fat arse. (not in a nice way) the second time she said this I blew a little and shouted at her that I had offered and all she did was moan and sleep (she falls asleep by 8:30 most nights and says its because she has to do so much for me , not that I think she does)
So she stood over me ahd screamed at me that she didn’t moan, inches from my face.
I went to stand up to say something back, but lost my balance, and started to fall, at this point she said “going to fall are you ?” and pushed me.
As I fell I grabbed her dressing gown and used it/her to steady myself, as she moved to relinquish my grip I lost my balance again, but this time pulled her to the floor with me.
At this point she started to scratch my face, I restrained her by holding her wrists and screamed at her that she pushed me.
Now we have hardly spoken for three days, she did apologise for pushing me and said we need to get help for our relationship.
We have a 10 year old daughter, who if I am honest is the main reason that I stay.
So, having discussed this with friends at work, they (and to be honest, most are female) have used the word abuse as the main thread. “that is abuse on her part!”
So what are your thoughts please.