# Sumtimes wonder why I should bother. **URL:** \ **Category:** Everyday living\ **Created:** [20 March 2014 18:34 UTC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/t/sumtimes-wonder-why-i-should-bother/5599 "2014-03-20T18:34:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![app666](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df788c/32.png) [@app666](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/u/app666)\ **Post date:** [20 March 2014 18:34 UTC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/t/sumtimes-wonder-why-i-should-bother/5599/1 "2014-03-20T18:34:34Z")
On a downer. I’m 32 about to buy a house, have a potential ms diagnosis hanging over me, want children & don’t want a life of illness. I look on Facebook at all my friends wonderful life’s and I feel like rubbish about my potential future of having a disabling illness. I don’t want to or mean to offend anyone, I think your all amazing strong people, but I’m scared & depressed & wondering what the point of it all is. ---
**Author:** ![chocorange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/41988e/32.png) [@chocorange](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/u/chocorange)\ **Post date:** [20 March 2014 19:14 UTC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/t/sumtimes-wonder-why-i-should-bother/5599/2 "2014-03-20T19:14:14Z")
hiya doubt if u have offended anyone… the point of it all? u have a precious human life so live it! i know f/b has many good things if used properly-i dont have it cos i believe it can cause more harm than good. u still have hopes and dreams, u may just need to adapt them. if u have read posts on here then u will know that a full life is possible after diagnosis. u say possible diagnosis.maybe best to deal with facts instead of maybe’s? i know thats easier said than done but so are most things ms related. dont worry/panic. dont compare ur life to others-its not comparable on any level cos u r unique-the one and only you! enjoy-some folk woke this morning and are not here tonight… be grateful for all that u have. please see some of my other replies-i hope they help u understand what i am trying to say. ellie ps talking/writing does help-getting different viewpoints helps us come to our own decisions. ---
**Author:** ![Inactive\_User](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/3e96dc/32.png) [@Inactive\_User](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/u/Inactive_User)\ **Post date:** [20 March 2014 19:28 UTC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/t/sumtimes-wonder-why-i-should-bother/5599/3 "2014-03-20T19:28:06Z")
I was dx when I was 40 (20 years ago) and I remember feeling just like you do. Let me tell you – you are not going to have a life of illness. You **are** going to have a wonderful life - you just have to carry a haversack with MS in it. Believe me I’m not one of those happy-clappy types who will tell you that you can beat MS with a positive attitude. But you can bow down to it with a negative one. That might sound contradictory but it has been my experience that MS has created some difficulties that I have overcome by finding practical solutions but I don’t believe in fighting it (I’m quite passive really and I don’t want to argue with anyone – even my MS) I have done oodles of things since my dx – to be honest MS might have caused me to adapt but not abandon. If I look back over the last 20 years I’m not sure I could make a list of things that I wanted to do but couldn’t. It helps that mountain climbing and deep sea diving were never ambitions but you know what I mean Change your attitude – you have a POTENTIALLY disabling condition. You might not be disabled, your MS may be nothing more than an inconvenience. Life holds no guarantees – you could get knocked down tomorrow so what’s the point? Chin up Jane PS I’ve moved 5 times since I had MS so don’t think buying a house is pointless! ---
**Author:** ![chocorange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/41988e/32.png) [@chocorange](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/u/chocorange)\ **Post date:** [20 March 2014 19:32 UTC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/t/sumtimes-wonder-why-i-should-bother/5599/4 "2014-03-20T19:32:34Z")
jane bloody fantastic reply! ellie x ---
**Author:** ![Inactive\_User](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/3e96dc/32.png) [@Inactive\_User](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/u/Inactive_User)\ **Post date:** [20 March 2014 20:55 UTC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/t/sumtimes-wonder-why-i-should-bother/5599/5 "2014-03-20T20:55:31Z")
I’ve had MS for 12 years, no drugs, still go to the gym, still dance, still go out with friends, still have my own place - who is to say that you won’t be like me?? And if you aren’t, like many people on here, you will adapt. JBK x ---
**Author:** ![Inactive\_User](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/3e96dc/32.png) [@Inactive\_User](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/u/Inactive_User)\ **Post date:** [20 March 2014 22:26 UTC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/t/sumtimes-wonder-why-i-should-bother/5599/6 "2014-03-20T22:26:23Z")
I was diagnosed at 19 or 20 and am now nearly 30. Can’t go to the gym - but who cares, I was crap at sport anyway! 🙂 I still manage to work and have a house and the rest of it. If you have got MS, don’t be depressed. You’ve still got a life and need to make the most of it. Living with MS isn’t always easy and can be bloody hard work, but if it is - it is. Make the best of it I say! I try to think of what I can do and try not to dwell on what I can’t! ---
**Author:** ![lisaC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f07891/32.png) [@lisaC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/u/lisaC)\ **Post date:** [20 March 2014 22:39 UTC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/t/sumtimes-wonder-why-i-should-bother/5599/7 "2014-03-20T22:39:52Z")
I was diagnosed in December 2012 and since then I’ve got married, moved house and had a baby. As my neurologist once said, you have to push on with life. Lisa x ---
**Author:** ![Janet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5e9695/32.png) [@Janet](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/u/Janet)\ **Post date:** [20 March 2014 23:09 UTC](https://forum.mssociety.org.uk/t/sumtimes-wonder-why-i-should-bother/5599/8 "2014-03-20T23:09:10Z")
Hi, I was Dx in 2012 with spms, apparently I have had MS for over 40 years, moved house three times and at the grand age of 67 just moved 150 miles and starting a whole new life. Have no intention of letting this disease rule my life. There’s plenty to look forward to, so chin up and think positive. Janet x