Not ms but one for the ladies

hi there can anyone help me .i,m 55 and started about 2 months ago with the hot flushes .they are increasing each day seem to be getting one about every 20 mins.they are really starting to get me down can,t sleep at night and during the day its just as bad.i am getting more and more tired and my symptoms seem to be increasing again. i think this is because i am so tired.went to the doctors she told me that because of my family history of cancer she didn,t want me on hrt.she recommended black cohosh and red clover.i,m taking a tablet that a combination of both but i seem to be getting worse rather then any of you ladies out there have any advice on any alternative remedies i could try.have to go now the heat is starting again.xx