Every year I meet up with former work colleagues. Usually me going to their town - about 20 miles away.
This year being on the ‘m.s. blink’ explained that I couldn’t get to them - fully expecting the 3 of them to come to me.
But no - they just had a local get together and I heard nothing from them. B*******!
Says a lot, doesn’t it? I’ve learnt not to have expectations in life. It avoids dissappointments.
Gits.
nobody should expect immunity from illness.
serve them right if they end up in a similar situation to you.
yup “gits” is one term but i can think of many, many more - quite rude ones!
[quote=Ssssue]
Gits.
Sue - a perfect reply!
gits indeed
Yorkshire folk are known for calling a spade a spade, but some prefer to call it a shovel!
Go figure!
Pollx
Yorkshire folk are known for calling a spade a spade, but some prefer to call it a shovel!
Go figure!
Pollx
[quote=“Boudica”]
Yorkshire folk are known for calling a spade a spade, but some prefer to call it a shovel!
Go figure!
Pollx
[/quote] Farmers use spades. Colliers use shovels. Never mix the 2 up if you are ever talking to either.
There is a big difference between being blunt and honest and being gratuitously rude and offensive. Some people never seem to get the balance right 
(In Yorkshire and elsewhere). MS doesn’t give you a golden ticket to preferential/deferential treatment. Curmudgeonly old Gits come in all (dis)abilities:relaxed:
I’ve had the - excluded from social life - experience on a number of occasions, to the extent that I just gave up and do my own thing.
Example:
Went with my sister and two others to the Hockney exhibition at the RAA - after they decided to ‘pop to the shops’ and left me for an hour parked in my chair at the coffee shop, because it was too much hassle to push me round in the busy London streets.
Which was true - yes - it would be difficult. So I said okay see you soon. But I was deeply hurt by this. I felt embarrassed and awkward. And people were watching me. TBH I felt humiliated.
These days ‘going out’ always turns out to be - me waiting in the car or coffee shop for others to return.
I can’t go out on my own, or keep up with others, or when out, can never find the nearest loo.
It became a nightmare being dependent upon the good will of others. This is why I prefer to stay home and occupy myself with drawing or watching lectures online, reading…etc.,.
So… I made my own plan which I find liberating. I drew my own limits on what I can or can’t cope with - and then filled my life within these limits. I think it is empowering.
I adapted. I am in control within predetermined limits.
Pj.
I say again gits! To leave you ‘parked’ while they go off to do something because it’s a bit inconvenient to take you along is crap. Shouldn’t happen. They’re not friends (or very sisterly) to leave you abandoned like a stood up blind date (or I usually liken it - when it’s me - to being a dog tied up outside a shop), is not on. And you’re so right PJday to choose what and with whom you can be bothered to do stuff.
I don’t normally take to putting on pjs and staying in bed, but I do pick and choose what I do and what I don’t. And of course, who I do it with. My friends know what my capabilities and limits are. They know that I won’t be abandoned for long, and plans are made with that in mind. So I don’t go out as often as I once would, but actually I’m quite content with that.
Sue
the answer to it being too much hassle to push you round the shops, would`ve been to have an electric wheelchair or scooter.
When I go out with friends, they cant leave me behind. I am often in front of them!!!
pollx
to those who I have been scathing or who I have upset I apologise.
to those who choose to be offended on BEHALF of others, others who may not have been offended at all I’m not sure how to respond to their subtle? bullying posts.
Hi
Let it ride over you. Clearly you are honest in your views and at times people may disagree with either the content or the style of your contributions. But we need all sorts on here, to challenge, to tell it how it is and to occasionally upset other people. If you’re always to be honest, then at times you run the risk of pissing someone off and you just have to live with it.
And like you said, if people are offended or affronted simply on behalf of someone else, then knickers to them.
Sue
I agree, gits!
I have some friends that apologise as they haven’t seen me in ages and I say no, you still see me and that’s all that matters. Besides, I have to have a slow social life if I want to cope with it. One of my old pole students took me out for lunch last weekend and another is coming over tomorrow - they are now good friends. I’d be saddened if they made arrangements I couldn’t get to - instead, I had a save the date conversation for a wedding
Whereas one of my ‘closest’ friends has been rubbish since I was diagnosed: The good, the bad and the ugly - my MuSh
Shame these people couldn’t/wouldn’t come to you, I’d be upset too. That little MS meme is so true - MS makes friends strangers and strangers friends
Sonia x
So true: “MS makes friends strangers and strangers friends.”
Pj
Hi, Ive said this before and I see nowt wrong wi saying it again…
we all have views on various subjects.Theyre bound to show a difference of opinion and its great that we can try to see things from someone else`s point of view
BUT
why we can`t express our views without being hurtful to anyone is beyond me.
Please play nicely folks!
pollx
thanks ‘anonymous’ for the p.m. – your apology is accepted.
Hi One thing i have found out about this condition is you know who your true friends are , move on and find better people to associate with, good luck