I’m am a 41 year old man. I feel life is passing me by. It’s get up, go to work, come home tired, go on the computer, make something to eat/tidy up, back on the computer and then go to bed….pretty boring really.
I’ve been by myself for a few years now. I miss having a female partner. Someone I can talk to, confide in, and laugh with, someone I can show when I have done something I’m proud of. Someone I can hold and feel their body heat, smell their smell as I hold them close. Someone I can help when they have problems. Basically do what couples do when they have a connection and trust each other and want to be together. I would hate to think that I will be here in years to come thinking the same things but never have tried to do something about it.
I think to myself how I can meet that someone. I can’t do it via work. I can’t do it via the pub either because I have no friends and I’m not into busy places where I could become unbalanced. Dating websites? I wouldn’t know where to start with them and wonder if they are just a con.
I read messages on this forum and think to myself I would like the way they “talk”, it would be interesting to meet them face-to-face, to hold a conversation where you see their face and their expressions as they talk.
I wonder how I can achieve my aim….
I just posted on another post about dating. I joined a website with mature and free in the name! I’ve been chatting to someone and have told him about the MS. Haven’t met yet as he is abroad in business but it has been amazing getting to know him. Give it a go! Good luck
have you joined a ms therapy centre?
lots of people make really good friendships there and once you’ve done that you can then take it to the next level.
i’m not promoting a kind of apartheid but i think we all know that understanding each others difficulties takes a big hurdle out of it.
get out there and good luck
carole x
hiya
just to say something re caroles answer. i understand where carole is coming from-it should in theory be helpful if both have ms but it just caused more probs for me. dated 2 years but it was destined not to work-too many differences re how to deal with ms. i still maintain the only right way is YOUR own way. it doesnt matter whether the couple have ms or not-its easy to lay blame for ms for everything-its an easy target and easy to convince other person (and urself!) that is the prob BUT its not. making any relationship work isnt easy-the people are they prob-not any health issue.
ellie x
i know how ur feeling, my partner walzed out on me recently and lioke you all iv got is the computer…online games…thats all. would really like to meet someone new but like you i have no friends and dont want to have the family sick of me…
Thanks for the replies. I need to get myself out of the rut I’m in, its like groundhog day most days.
Please pm me if you do not want give names to dating sites etc which you have had success with.