My husbands daughter from his first marriage has made contact through a facebook page we set up specifically for that reason.
He hasn’t had contact with her for 18 years, he was awarde joint parental rights, but was never able to see her when he went at the arranged times, and went back to court for over 5 years trying to get access, unsuccessfully. Eventually he gave up, he couldn’t afford to keep going, but continued sending xmas and birthday cards and letters, and paying maintenace through the csa, directly from his paypacket. The mum changed the daughters name and moved house and county without informing him, and the daughter never received anything he sent.
His joy at being traced has been short lived, as she has been brought up to believe that she was abandoned, and that he never paid a penny! We also had a horrid message from his ex, saying exactly that, and threatening him not to contact her. We worked out he’s paid more than £40,000.
Does anyone know if he can prove this? Will the csa give him statement, his old employers, even the tax office? Can she access court records to see how many times he went to court trying to enforce access?
I’ve rung the CSA helpline but they won’t give me even a theoretical answer, they need to talk to him. Fine, he’s at work, a lorry driver, so it will have to be this evening, but I’d love to be able to have some answers for him when he comes home. Last night was awfull for him, and I’m devestated for him.
Can anyone help?