Been seeing somebody for a few weeks and found out he’s in a relationship with 2 kids. I’ve got her mobile number, should I tell her or not. I’m so upset 
tell HIM first.
tell him that he should treat his partner with respect!
i hope you’re not too hurt but at least you found out early in the relationship.
carole x
My advice? Walk away and do not give him (or her) another thought. You have had a lucky escape - just be glad that he is her problem to solve, not yours. Don’t get involved.
Alison
[quote=“pigpen”]
tell HIM first.
tell him that he should treat his partner with respect!
i hope you’re not too hurt but at least you found out early in the relationship.
carole x
[/quote] He won’t tell her. He has too much to lose. I don’t see why he should be away with it though
[quote=“alison100”]
My advice? Walk away and do not give him (or her) another thought. You have had a lucky escape - just be glad that he is her problem to solve, not yours. Don’t get involved.
Alison
[/quote] But unless I tell her she’ll never know what he’s been up to
You are probably not the first - or last - he has had an ‘affair’ with. Men do like to have their cake and eat it. His partner might well already know what he is like. Just step away - if he is doing the dirty on his partner and children - and is getting away with it -he will do the same to you.
l do speak from experience. Step away from the relationship - head held high.
- She may not be shocked when you tell her. Perhaps he’s done this before… 2. Why not just leave her in happy oblivion. 3. Ask yourself, why you really want to tell her. I’m really sorry he’s hurt you. I would try and put it behind you. you deserve better. xx
[quote=“Blossom”] 1. She may not be shocked when you tell her. Perhaps he’s done this before… 2. Why not just leave her in happy oblivion. 3. Ask yourself, why you really want to tell her. I’m really sorry he’s hurt you. I would try and put it behind you. you deserve better. xx [/quote] If it was my partner I’d want to know. Would’t you?
Oh this is hard - I am all up for you walking away with your head held high. But I have to say I would say something to her - I dont think I would physically be able to keep quiet, I am very hot headed. But then, whats the bet (if he is a man like he is coming across) you will be some “jealous” woman that is just trying to ruin their relationship as you came on to him and he wasnt interested or some other tosh…and people will think you are trying to hurt someone else just because you are hurt…maybe sit on it for a few days and decide then?
Thank god you found out early - doesnt help hurt feelings now but hopefully they will be quicker to heal.
x
[quote=“hayley894”]
Oh this is hard - I am all up for you walking away with your head held high. But I have to say I would say something to her - I dont think I would physically be able to keep quiet, I am very hot headed. But then, whats the bet (if he is a man like he is coming across) you will be some “jealous” woman that is just trying to ruin their relationship as you came on to him and he wasnt interested or some other tosh…and people will think you are trying to hurt someone else just because you are hurt…maybe sit on it for a few days and decide then?
Thank god you found out early - doesnt help hurt feelings now but hopefully they will be quicker to heal.
x
[/quote] I’ll think about it over the weekend and decide what to do. I was cheated on for about 5 years. Hurt like hell when I found out but so glad I did. I have nothing to lose but he’ll lose everything. It’s the kids I’ll feel sorry for x
Sorry!! I was commenting from a mature person, who’s been through something similar with her daughter. Seriously!! If it was my husband…I’d be calling a doctor. X You do whatever feels right 
[quote=“Blossom”] Sorry!! I was commenting from a mature person, who’s been through something similar with her daughter. Seriously!! If it was my husband…I’d be calling a doctor. X You do whatever feels right [/quote] calling a doctor ha ha
I wouldn’t’t, she won’t thank you for it. But I would break off the relationship for your own well-being. Walk away. You are better than that xx
Just walk away from your relationship, you , at least know now what is happening, she isn’t your problem, She might not believe you, or might not care. Worse, she might take a dislike to you, get into a fight with you, make life miserable for you. Cher
I was that wife.
I was told by another woman in just the way you suggest. My husband (now ex) convinced me that he was an innocent party. The woman was obsessed with him he said. She was unstable and nothing had happened outside her head.
I believed it because I wanted to but it was another affair that I couldn’t ignore that finally split us up so looking back he was probably playing away that time too.
Nothing good will come out of this for you. Don’t get involved. Walk away.
Steady Spacejacket - I would never betray my wife and my bro-in-law’s wife had an affair - she was a two-timing, scheming, evil byatch…ladies can be guilty of “playing away” as well…
Leave well alone. You’ve had a lucky escape but I agree that there are several scenarios where things could go wrong if you tell his wife:-
a) he will talk his way out of it and make it look as if you came on to him
b) wife already knows and is determined to hang onto him by whatever means possible
c) wife doesn’t believe you, full stop, thinks you are just causing trouble and causes an ugly scene
Even if his wife does believe you, do you really want to be the one that causes the marriage break-up and the sadness in the children’s eyes? Of course, it is really his fault but who is going to be remembered for breaking the news …? If he is a two timing rat, the truth will come out in due course without you forcing the issue.
I’ve been in her situation and deep down the signs are there long before you want to admit the truth to yourself. She will see it for herself in due course …
Tracey xx
hiya
no…
and other posters have said why…
ellie