Another **** week chez Boblatina.
My mother is 89 and in terrible health. She has had 4 major, MAJOR heart atacks to date (the kind of heart attack that people don’t survive normally) and is in congenital heart failure.
After a LOT of persuasion, she moved from her nice sheltered accomodation to the very nice care home on the same charity estate a couple of month’s ago (houses, bungalows, sheltered flats sand a care home all run by the same charity). Not cheap but really worth it for her.
All was going well until Wednesday when she decided to get up from her chair in her room on her own without calling for assistance (stubborn old b that she is) . Fell against the door and managed to break her neck.
Yes. BROKE HER NECK! (And they couldn’t get in the door because she had fallen against it so they had to break through the window)
She lives on the Wirral but they have sent her to Fazackerly hosp because she has developed haemotomas that won’t clear. She needs an operation really but - not suprisingly because of her heart - the neurosurgeon won’t touch her with a bargepole because she wouldn’t survice a GA.
It’s a long time since I lived on Merseyside and, when I did, Fazack didn’t do major trauma (it was cancer, geriatrics and Mental Health) The question I need to ask is whether it is actually major trauma / neuro / spinal injury now or have they just sent her to geriatric ward to die? If it was that, I would have thought that they would have sent her to Arrowe Park which is the closest to where she lives (but, then again, she has been “expected not to make it through the night” 4 times at AP so she is probably barred from there now!)
As we say - and she agrees - “Neither God or the Devil wants her”!
Sorry to sound hard but she is currently paralysed from the chest down (the break is at C2) and cannot feed herself or even read a newspaper. She is very deaf so even watching the TV is out as well (even if she could operate the remote control). She doesn’t know yet how bad she is (just thinks that she will have to wear a collar for a couple of weeks)
I don’t have a brilliant relationship with her but I wouldn’t wish this on ANYBODY.
Sorry for such a wooly post but my head is everywhere at the moment.