Does anyone know of any good coping strategies to stop feelings of bitterness and resentment?
I got d/x’d in 2010 and my then wife still did not get off her lazy backside and get a job, even though we had a lot of debt and a huge mortgage.
Last January I finally left her and asked her to keep things amicable, above board and not to deny me access to our 13 year old adopted daughter. The exact opposite happened, lots of vile false allegations just before she moved a new bloke in and I had to enlist a Solicitor. £16,500 later and a nasty divorce, I now have a child I do not see or hear from because the mother has turned her against me. I’ve come out of a 25 year relationship with just my clothes, my guitar equipment, my office equipment and a few bits of tat! She has kept everything that I have worked hard for - every item of furniture, white goods, electrical gear, including some pretty good Sony stuff. She is also keeping the property we used to rent out as the house we were in is getting re-possessed.
The question is, how to deal with it? How to stop feeling bitter and twisted? How do I stop all this before it wrecks my current relationship? How do you “just let go” as my friends are telling me?