Thank you for your comments, it’s just that my dad behaved in a similar way towards my mum, (she had R. Arthritis very bad indeed) and when I speak with my friends about their husbands they say they are the same. Unemotional unsympathetic.
My husband was very unsupportive before I was diagnosed leading to me having a complete breakdown, after diagnosis he has been very good, understands MS, mends my equipment, supported adaptations to the house, keeps the computer going and takes me to hospital appointments, helps me with my voluntary work for MS, though he will not come on any outings or communicate much with my friends and won’t come on holiday with me, but goes on jaunts with some friends who like slightly extreme sports and canoeing, this I don’t mind but it doesn’t do me any good.
I have looked at Asperger’s sites and all I’ve seen so far are partners who have had enough.
I have always been supportive of him, for years he’s battled with work, not holding down a job for more than a year or so. He does find it difficult to get on with people, he’s intelligent and doesn’t suffer fools. He also battles with alcholism; which I do find difficult to live with but he tells me it’s the only way he can relax enough to sleep and no he wont take prescribed medication.
Truth is he’s driven all of his friends and mine away, we have to keep our friends outside the home, my relatives only visit when he’s not around, his family are a bit of a nightmare, brother took his life, sister’s an recovered alcholic.
Sorry I’m going on but it sometimes is difficult living with someone who seems to dislike the whole world.
Also it’s difficult for my daughter, now in her 30s, she doesn’t know how to relate to him and spends much of her time living abroad.
Thanks for listening.